Qualities to avoid in friends: Part 1

So many people want to have friends, more than their enemies or peers. They’ll do anything to be more popular or to feel better about themselves. They’ll let their friends use or abuse them physically, psychologically and emotionally. All of these are signs of pride and more of course. As said in my previous blog, we need to be picky with who we have as friends. One of the qualities we don’t need to have and have as a huge one in our friends is pride.

“ The Lord hates six things; in fact, seven are detestable to Him: arrogant eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, Proverbs 6:16-17”

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Now we all have pride, no matter how humble you think of portray to the world you are, I’m especially prideful. I say that because even though all of us are prideful and need to try and stop it from taking over us, we also need to be wary of those have already had pride take over and they’re not asking God for forgiveness for it. Some of the consequences of a prideful heart is that they will try to use you in their relationship and take you and your friendship for granted and do things that would betray your trust or hurt since they think that you’ll always be their friend. Another consequence is that there will be constant fighting.

Some of the signs of a prideful heart is that they’ll never ask for forgiveness for something they’ve done wrong even though they know they were wrong and acknowledged it. This will cause tension in your friendship since it can start out with a small wrong and progress to a bigger one once they know they can start pushing you and your friendship. They will also look down upon you since they think they are better than you. We are all equal when it comes to friends and when they look down upon you, it will make you feel either mad or sad depending on your personality.

Some more signs of a prideful heart is that they talk about themselves ALOT. They generally don’t want to talk about anything other than what they’ve done, are doing or really anything about themselves. When someone else gets mentioned or tries to talk about someone other than themselves, they try to interrupt and turn the topic back on themselves. Now we all like ourselves and so therefore hate it when we are interrupted or never get to talk about the things we like. We feel ignored and not worth anything. This is terrible for a friendship of any kind.

One last sign( there are many more) for this article is that when they are given constructive criticism, they get defensive and try to strike back. For example, you or someone may tell them a better way to do a job or an assignment, they don’t say thanks and take it into consideration but rather strike back with saying how they work harder than you or that they then insult you or whoever giving the advice. They hate being corrected because they think they are either better than you or think that if they might be wrong that their self worth is damaged when it isn’t. They also always have to have the last word in an argument.

“Pride comes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall.” Proverbs 16:18

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Now like I said, we all have pride and can struggle with it but we can’t let it take over us or our friends because if they can’t ask for forgiveness because of their pride, then they’ll never become a Christian since it takes some humility to ask for forgiveness and to know they are wrong. The one I struggle with most is that I’ve always struggled with asking for help since I’ve always been raised to be able to do something by myself and have been able to for the most part but there has been a few times and will be in the future where I will need the help of others, including my friends. Like the verse says, if you have too much sinful pride then you will fall and so will your friends, so be careful with pride and try to find the right friends. There are many more signs of pride, so if you have any questions, you can still comment or message me and I’ll answer any questions that you might have. Thank you for reading and I hope you have a great day.

Published by pastorclark2014

Just an average guy that loves Jesus, football and wanting to learn more about God everyday. I post my devotions and lessons on here to gather my thoughts together. So if I make a mistake, tell me and if you know places where I can learn more, tell me that too. I hope y’all have a great day.

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